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How Can I Help Someone Else?

Call the Professionals

Call us yourself to talk directly with an advocate to learn about how you can best help.
Encourage her to call an organization that can help:
Noah Project: 1-800-444-3551
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-S.A.F.E.
Calls are confidential
Nobody will pressure her to do something she doesn't want to do.

Many victims don't reach out to others because they fear judgment over what is happening to them or they fear being judged for not leaving.
Remember that what is happening to her is not her fault.
Don't Give Up
Leaving an abusive relationship permanently is a death-defying act that usually takes a long time and requires a lot of hard work.
Abuse is about control; most victims are tied to their abusers by legal, family, and financial ties that take time to break.
Most victims of family violence will return to the relationship more than six times before finally leaving for good.

Keep a journal of any abuse that you see. Include the time, date, what happened, and the names of any other witnesses.
Whenever it's safe, encourage the victim to tell the truth to doctors and medical professionals, make police reports, and contact the local shelter.
Remember that involving people and authorities outside the relationship may increase her danger level. Encourage, but don't pressure.